» When a girl ignores
your message twice, leave her alone. She isn't blind,
she just chose to ignore it. There's no
need sending more messages. Move
to the next chic sharply.
» When a girl accept your
request, seriously
typing "tnx for accepting" on
her wall is lame. Do it in her inbox.
Some of you get ignored when you type
that crap on their walls.
» You don't need to be a male
whore. Don't woo every random chic on your list.
Some are good enough to be
just friends with you.
» As I usually stress, don't be a
thirsty dude on a girl's post. If the
post is nice, simply hit "like" and move on. If
you need
to comment, make it brief and
interesting. Don't go begging her to add you.
» If the picture is beautiful, like
it and give a simple compliment. If its not,
there's no need lying to get her attention.
» When chatting you don't spend your
whole time telling a girl how
beautiful she is, a
hundred other dudes tell her
everyday. They find it boring
when you join the train.
» You have those chicks who
have never liked, shared or commented on
any of your posts. They also don't
reply your messages. Please biko, why
haven't you deleted them? You be their
slave?
» If you find yourself always
starting the
convo with a particular person,
like you're always the first to message
her, stop for a while. If she doesn't notice,
you're not
important to her...leave her alone.
» If you guys don't roll, don't
tag her to your pictures. She might find it offensive.
» The lesser of you, the better
for you.
When you are all over her wall,
all over all her posts and all over all her
pictures commenting and liking everything, you are less appreciated because
you are acting thirsty.
» When you compliment a girl
on her picture and another person
compliments the same picture, and the girl thanks the other
person and skips your name, please
remove your comment. It wasn't necessary.
No doubt, money is a desideratum in a relationship. But,
some couples started with nothing, but today they are very
much comfortable.
Many guys are unmarried because of lack of financial
stability. The high cost of bride price and other things
associated with traditional marriage rites dont even
encourage some low income earners to start thinking of
marriage. You see babes dump their guys for richer ones. Some women
say they can't date any poor man, in fact they detest poor men.
So what's your take on money in a relationship???
1. My son, if you keep spending on a woman and she never asked
you if you’re saving or investing, and she keeps enjoying the
attention, don’t marry her.
2. My son, a woman could be a good wife to you, some could be a
good mother to your children but if you’ve found a woman like a
mother to you, your children and your family, please don’t let her
go.
3. My son, don’t confine the position of your wife to the kitchen,
where did you get that from? Even in our days, we had farm-lands
where they worked every morning . . . that was our office.
4. My son, if I tell you that you’re the head of the house, don’t look
at your pocket; look if you will see a smile on your wife’s face.
5. My son, if you want to have a long life, let your wife be in-
charge of your salary, it will be difficult for her to spend it when
she’s aware of the home needs and bills to pay but if it’s in your
care, she will keep you asking even when all has been spent.
6. My son, don’t ever beat your woman, the pain in her body is nothing to be compared to the wound on her heart and that
means you may be in trouble living with a wounded woman.
7. My son, now that you’re married, if you live a bachelor kind of life with your wife, you will soon be single again.
8. My son, in our days, we had many wives and many children
because of our large farm-lands and many harvests, there are
hardly any land for farming anymore, so embrace your woman closely.
9. My son, under the cocoa tree that I did meet your mother could be
your eateries and restaurants of nowadays, but remember, the closet
thing we did there was to embrace each
other.
10. My son, don’t
be carried away when you start making more money, instead of spending on
those tiny legs that never knew how hard you worked to get it, spend it
on that woman that stood by you all along.
11. My son, when I threw
little stones or whistled at the window of your mother father’s house,
to call her out, it was not for sex, it was because I missed her so
much.
12. My son, remember, when you say your wife has changed,
there could be something you’ve stopped doing too.
13. My son, your mother, rode the bicycle with me before I bought that
tortoise car outside there, any woman that won’t endure with you in your
little beginning should not enjoy your riches.
14. My son, don’t compare your wife to any woman, there are
ways she’s enduring you too and has she ever compared you to any man?
15. My son, there is this thing you people call feminism, well, if a
woman claim to have equal right with you in the house, divide all
the bills into two equal parts, take one part and ask her to start paying the other part.
16. My son, I met your mother a virgin and I took more yams to her
father, if you don’t meet your wife a virgin, don’t blame her, what I
didn’t tell you is that our women had prestige.
17. My son, I didn’t send your sisters to school because I was
foolish like many to think a female child won’t extend my family name,
please don’t make that mistake, the kind of female achievers I see
nowadays has made the male-gender an ordinary tag.
18. My son, your
mother have once locked up the cloth I was wearing and almost tore it
because she was angry, I did not raise my hand to beat her because of a
day like this, so that I can be proud to tell you that I never for once
beat your mother.
19. My son, in our days, our women had more of natural beauty,
though I wouldn’t lie to you, some had minor painting of their
appellation mostly on their arms, the ones you people now call tattoo,
but don’t forget that they didn’t expose any part of their
body like your women of nowadays.
20. My son, your mother and I are not interested in what happens in
your marriage, try to handle issues without always coming to
us.
21. My son, remember I bought your mother’s first sewing machine for
her, help your wife achieve her dreams just as you’re pursuing yours.
22. My son, don’t stop taking care of me and your mother, it’s a secret
of growing old and having children to take care of you too.
23. My son, pray with your family, there is a tomorrow you don’t know, talk to God that knows everything, everyday.
1. Thou shall not date any guy out of sympathy. It is not worth it. It has never worth the pain. Ladies beware!
2. Thou shall not do revenge relationship a.k.a let me show my
boyfriend I can flirt too. Ladies, that is inflicting more injuries on
yourself
3. Thou shall not depend on any man for your daily needs. It has brought more pains than joy to some ladies. Ladies, please!
4. Thou shall never fight over a man. Such men usually don’t have
regard for ladies. Ladies, you can ask around if you are in doubt!
5. Thou shall not remain in a violent relationship. You are supposed to
be his sweetheart not a punching bag. If he’s looking for whom to
punch, refer him to Mike Tyson. Ladies, abi?
6. Thou shall not
give IT to him. If he wants IT that desperately, he should put a ring on
it. Funny enough, men can wait if they see your worth it. True!
7. Be bold when men toast you. Stop cutting flowers or drawing circles
with your leg. Enjoy the ‘toasting’. Don’t forget to pay attention to
the pick up lines. Some pick up lines can crack your ribs.
8.
If you are not sure of your man especially if the relationship is still
new, never take your girlfriend to his house or give her his number or
BB pin. Odikwa very risky!
9. As soon as you can, let your man show his face to your people. Your sister or brother or mother. This is very key.
10. Material possessions are good but never let them be the number one factor in choosing a man.
11. Do not forget the golden rule. Always sit like a woman. Some men
act like babies when a woman is not properly seated. You know what I
mean!
12. Never think you can trap a man with good sex. Fou fou fou… foul! It is an aberration.
13. Be good to men but be firm. Yes firm but don’t scare them away.
14. Men are not in short supply. Don’t let them deceive you. Don’t
believe anything in the contrary. Don’t be stampeded into a
relationship.
15. If your purpose for financing a man is to keep him, that could be a big mistake. Finance for the right reasons.
16. Men are not the same. Don’t listen to “men are the same jare!” It’s
a lie! How many men have you met out of about six billion people on
earth? You see am nau, abi?
17. Adventures can be sweet. However, never embark on a long trip to meet a man without informing someone. Never!
18. Guys have a way of saying “don’t let anybody know about us yet.” If
the relationship is up to three months and counting,somebody should
know about it jor! Better things, they no dey hide am.
19. They
say good girls love bad boys. And as a good girl, you are looking for a
bad boy to love? OYO for you! Let bad girls love bad boys and good
girls love good boys. Nobody should use your head to catch a bullet.
20. Enjoy being single. It does not last forever.
We guys have been made to think that we must always do anything
possible to impress the female folk. I'm not against a guy loving her
babe, I'm against a guy doing silly things in order to impress a lady.
The truth is that most times, these actions come back to haunt us while,
we get to regret at the end.
1. Consuming too much alcohol: most guys are
guilty of this especially when trying to woo a lady or when taking her
to bed. This is wrong in so many ways: it will damage your
health, its a temporary measure, you most times end up
misbehaving and its not a guarantee that you'll succeed in wooing or
performing well in bed. Besides, the lady will know that you took
something and that you lack confidence and esteem. Be yourself.
2. Spending above your means: whether its buying things you don't
really need in order to look rich and fly, or spoiling the lady with
things you normally should not be buying. Its
wrong. I see a lot of
guys do this and I keep wondering to what purpose? The worst is many of
them come back to their senses when its already too late!
3.
Lying: I'm not talking about the small lies guys normally tell, I'm
talking about bragging to a lady about what you're not. Why tell a lady
your father is Dangote's brother, or you're a Chelsea player, or you
work in Shell. This will make her have high expectation from you which
you would be trying to live up to.
4. Badmouthing your fellow
guys: Maybe a guy that is also coming after her. Its wrong for a guy to
maltreat his fellow in any way because of a lady. Whether its
badmouthing, fighting or quarelling with him, its not worth it.
5. Giving your values and beliefs: Maybe you're a committed Christian or Muslim, you start backsliding or become
uncommitted because she told you to. You start to abandon your loved
ones and family, your studies begin to nosedive and even your job sef,
you become unserious. Its a very silly thing to do because when the
chips are down, those are the
only things that will get you going- God, your family and loved
ones and your job which will put food on your table.
6. Pretending to be who you're not: there's no need to
pretend to be a bad guy if you're not. There are still ladies who
values good guys. U don't need to force yourself to seem confident if
you're a shy guy. People will know you're just acting it up.
Add yours please...
Many Ladies are known to base their marital decisions on things that
will not endure a life-time. These have led many of them into wrong
marriages and life time bondage. We need to identify and deal with them:
1) HEIGHT: Every girl’s dream is to marry a tall, dark guy with a
baritone voice, I wonder where they got the idea that tall guys are better
in marriage. Hey Girls, tall guy can give you tall problems; it is not
the height that matters but the depth of the guy in God and in
character.
2) MUSCLE: Muscular and heavy looking guys are also
lucky, they are seen to be good suitors, and girls do say “they look
manly” “they look like real men”. Sorry Girls, muscles do not make a
real man, character and ability to shoulder responsibility do. A guy
with muscle without character will use his muscles to deal with you and
batter your beautiful face.
3) A WELL SET HOUSE: A guy with a
well set house is the dream of any girl any day. Many girls will throw
caution into the wind to grab a man who have a house with King size;
beautiful Italian Settee, micro wave oven, well stock freezer, home
theater, refrigerator, gas cooker, Plasma TV,6 by 6 bed, well stuff
Kitchen, Dining table, washing machine, dish washers, split unit air
conditioner etc is a dream catch for girls any day. Sorry girl, a well
set house is good but it may be a well set trouble if the guy is not a
man of character, manners or discretion, he will make the house look
like a prison yard for you.
4) FAT BANK ACCOUNT: Girls are fond
of trying to know how rich a guy is by checking the guy’s phones for
bank alerts. They joyfully decide to marry a guy when they discover the
guy is very rich with fat Bank balance. What a mistake? They don’t want
to know where the money is coming from; they don’t even want to know
what the guy does for a living. What concerns them is the money that is
available to be spent. Many girls ended up finding themselves entangled
for life in this kind of situation, don’t base your marriage on GREED,
it won’t turn to GREEN.
5) PLACE OF WORK: Some of our girls are
in the habit of making marital decision base on the place a guy works.
You dare not talk of marriage to them if you are a Teacher or civil
servant. You dare not propose them if you are working with a small firm,
or one man business. What an error? Girls note that, that a guy works
in ACCESS BANK does not mean he will give you ACCESS to his heart or
peace of mind. A guy that works in SHELL may put your life in a SHELL
forever, you may not be the FIRST in the life of a guy that works in
FIRST BANK, a guy that work in GUARANTEE TRUST BANK may not GUARANTEE
your future. He may be working in NESTLE but not SETTLE you at home, So
it is not about where he is working but about who is working in Him, God
or devil.
6) ROMANCE: A young lady said, “The guy is romantic,
hot and sexy, i will marry him” Stop girl!!!!, Romance is not enough
for marriage. The truth is, most so called romantic guys don’t remain
like that after wedding. Marry a guy base on qualities that will endure,
romance don’t last forever, go and ask married women.
7) TYPE
OF CAR: A whole lots of girls will be enticed by a guy driving a big and
expensive car. Some will not even go out with a guy that does not have a
car. If you want to mess yourself as a guy, ride on a bike to go and
propose to a lady, you will hear the story of your life. Ladies, a guy
that has a CAR may not CARE for you, life is not about CAR, it is about
marrying somebody that will CARE for your future.
AND: Most
girls will readily marry anybody with US or UK passports, Lots of girls
have destroyed their lives in the process of looking for somebody with a
foreign passport to marry.
9) HIS PERFORMANCE IN THE CHOIR: It
is funny that some ladies are ready to get marry to some guys because
they are very good in the choir, they can play Sax, keyboard, drums,
trumpet and sing tenor and Bass very well, I wonder whether they want to
start a choir band in their houses.
10) RICH PARENT: Children
of Rich parents are easy target for many young girls not because they
are in love with them, but they know they will have access to money and
connection. Many of these guys come from rich are pompous, cocky, proud
and will be terrible and irresponsible husbands and fathers tomorrow but
girls will not care about that, Most of these girls do live to regret
their wrong decision.
Don’t marry anybody just because the parents are rich, marry the person for who he is and the love you share together.
11) FELLOWSHIP LEADERSHIP: Many Christian ladies are ready to die to
marry brothers that are in the executives of their Campus fellowship.
They fight tooth and nail to get the attention of these brothers, some
even go to the extent of offering their bodies. Many of these ladies do
think that the best of all men are in the executives of the Campus
fellowship, they’ve forgotten that A PRESIDENT OF THE FELLOWSHIP MAY NOT
BE A RESIDENT OF HEAVEN.
12) BEDROOM EXPERTISE: One of the
most stupid way to make a decision who to marry as a lady is to base it
on how good, sexy or terrific a Guy is, in the bedroom. If you base
your marital decision on a man’s sexual prowess; you may end up with a
play boy instead of a Husband. You may end up getting marry to a sex
hunter, instead of a real lover, a universal sperm donor who will sleep
with your sister, house maid, friends, girls in the neighborhood, his
secretary and anything in skirt that cross his paths. DON’T GO FOR SEX
GO FOR SENSE.
I know some guys would have my head for this but i need to help my
sisters out. Trying to get a little bit more intimate with that special
someone in your life? Well, get cozy and relaxed with your lover and try
out these 20 romantic questions to ask your boyfriend, after thes
questions trust me you would know if he is a keeper or not.
1. How long do you
see our relationship lasting? There’s no better way to find out how
serious someone is about a relationship than with this question. If he
says anything other than ‘till the end of time’ or ‘forever’ or
something along those lines, you may need to rethink! Whether he wants
to admit it or not, every guy knows from day one what he wants from a
relationship.
2. How much do you love me? Get ready to be
showered with compliments, hugs, kisses and the likes, simply by asking
this romantic question. OR else get ready to receive the cold shoulder.
3. What is your opinion of marriage? It’s every woman’s dream to get
married, so if your man isn’t on board with marriage you may have a
problem. On the other hand, if he thinks the man is a provider who
should care for his woman till the end, you’ve struck gold.
4.
Do you see us ever getting married? Is there wedding rings and
honeymoons in your future? You’ll never know until you ask him this
romantic question.
5. What do you love about me the most?
Again, this compliment-provoking question is simply one you have to ask.
If he doesn't love one special thing about you then he is lying. The
easy answer guys give is that they just love everything about you. Big
lie dear wink
6. If I died in a horrible accident, how would
you react? If he is anything other than terribly distraught for months
on end, he might not be as serious as you think he is. Its heart warming
to know he won't be chasing other ladies the next minute you're gone or
dont you think wink
7. How can I prove my love for you?
Feeling like really proving to your guy you love him more than anything
on earth? Then you need to ask this question and find out what he’s
craving for.
8. Do you feel like you can tell me anything?
Without trust and a bond, a relationship cannot be sustained. If he
truly loves you he should be ready and willing to share even his
deepest, darkest secrets.
9. Do you still remember our first kiss?
This question is actually more important than you think. Your first
kiss was one of the milestones of the relationship and should be one of
the most important things to remember. Warning: Hearing your man relive
the night you and two shared your first kiss may be a tear jerker kiss
10. Do you remember the day we met? Again, if your man remembers this
amazing day, then he is definitely head over heels about you. Plus this
question makes for a highly romantic reminiscing session.
11.
What about me were you first attracted to? Was it your beautiful green
eyes? Your long brown hair? Your hilarious personality? Your bosoms
(yeah had to add that grin) Find out what has made your man gaga ever
since the start.
12. What song reminds you about me? This can
really tell you a lot about what’s going on in his mind. Would he choose
a crumby, yet totally adorable song like ‘Brown Eyed Girl’, or is it
something a bit raunchy like ‘Ms New Booty’? Nigerian girls really like
this part..
13. What’s is the craziest thing you would do for
me? If you’re wondering what exactly your man would be willing to do for
your love, you’ll find out instantly with this cute question. But don't
get all vexed when he says he cant fight a bouncer for you.
14. Would you sacrifice (something) to keep our relationship going?
Would he give up his hateful, jealous friends just to keep you? Would
he stop playing video games if it meant saving your relationship? Choose
one of his favorite things and see if he’d be willing to give it up for
you!
15. Would you be my lover in the next life? If he
wouldn’t want you in the next life, he probably doesn’t really want you
in this life. Time to hit the ‘end’ button.
16. Would you be
loyal even if your celebrity crush tried to sleep with you? Who could
resist their celebrity crush? Only a man who truly loves you, of course!
Can your man say no to the temptations?
17. Will you be with
me no matter what? Even if your looks went sour or you were suddenly
dirt poor, your man should still be right by your side through it all.
Reminds me of man who got married .to his crippled fiancee
18. What memory of ours do you never want to forget?
Finding out your man’s fondest memory of the two of you is always a
heart melter. Enjoy as he reminisces about his favorite moments and take
a second to just enjoy what the two of you have been through together.
19. Am I perfect in your eyes?
The answer should always be yes, no questions asked. If he truly loves you, trust me you would be as white as snow before him.
20. Where would our dream honeymoon be?
It’s nice to imagine the two of you eventually saying your vows,
exchanging rings, and being together for the rest of your lives. But
that’s not all. There’s also the honeymoon. What romantic place would
the love of your life take you? A beautiful beach paradise or by the
fireplace in a cabin amongst ice-capped mountain tops? Word of advice,
don't ask your boyfriend this question if he is a broke nigga, he could
break up with you at that instant
