Will I Ever Fall in Love Again?

A woman pondering the future of her love life
Will I ever fall in love again? This is a question that commonly
comes up in readings, and the answer to this question will always
be the same for everyone who asks me. The answer to the million-
dollar question is ? if you allow yourself to.
People tend to think that everything in life is determined by
destiny, and it's true that a lot of what we experience is brought
our way by the universe. However, when it comes to what is sent
our way, we play a big part in what comes through to us, and what
doesn't come through to us. A lot of it has to do with how open
we are to receiving what the universe is offering us. I'm not talking
about receiving what you want or need. I'm talking about being in
a state that allows your energies to flow freely without much
blockage. Allow me to illustrate this with a common example:
Your boyfriend has broken up with you and you're devastated,
your world has come crashing down and you feel like you'll never
love again. You try your hardest to just suck it up and move on
like so many people are advising you to do. You do your best, but
deep down inside you're still holding onto a lot of the pain from
that past disappointment. Although you're being given
opportunities to be with new people, nothing seems to ever move
forward the way you want it to.
This is a classic case that plays out for many people time after
time, and they always wonder, "Why?" We have been taught from
an early age that pain is bad and that we must avoid feeling it at all
costs. Crying and letting our emotions out are seen as bad things.
So we begin to lose touch with our energy and aren't able to feel
what's going on with it ? this creates blockage. So to answer the
big "why?" above, it's because your energy is being blocked by
past "junk" that you have been conditioned to suppress ? you're
not flowing as you are meant to. By ignoring our energy and only
focusing on the physical, we give up much of the power we have
in deciding the quality of life we live.
So if you're feeling stuck, not just in love, but in any area of life it
would be very helpful to look into healing and contact an energy
worker who can help you get in touch with your energy. You will
be able to see where things are blocked and what issues from your
past you need to release. Keep in mind that it's not a quick fix and
it's basically like learning a new way of living that takes a bit of
dedication. But, it will make a tremendous difference in your life,
and allow you to receive the opportunities the universe wants to
send you.

Looking for Mr. Right

What should you look for in a future spouse?

I visit a lot of different websites each week, searching for interesting articles or for story ideas.  The New York Times website is one of my favorites, and while there I always look at a little box that lists the "most emailed stories" of the day. 
If one article keeps showing up on this list day after day, you know it has attracted an unusual amount of interest.  And this was the case recently with an article titled "An Ideal Husband," by columnist Maureen Dowd.  It stayed on the "most emailed" list for about a week, which means that somehow the column struck a chord with many readers.
It's a simple article, actually.  It raises the question: How do you know if you've found someone who would make a good husband? 
Connor's advice is the type of practical wisdom you don't normally find in the New York Times.  (Perhaps that is one reason the article was so popular!)
For example:

• "Never marry a man who has no friends.  This usually means that he will be incapable of the intimacy that marriage demands."
• "Does he use money responsibly?"
• "Steer clear of someone whose life you can run, who never makes demands counter to yours. It's good to have a doormat in the home, but not if it’s your husband."
• "Does he have a sense of humor? That covers a multitude of sins."
• "Don't marry a problem character thinking you will change him. He's a heavy drinker, or some other kind of addict, but if he marries a good woman, he'll settle down. People are the same after marriage as before, only more so."
• "Take a good, unsentimental look at his family -- you'll learn a lot about him and his attitude towards women."
• "Does he possess those character traits that add up to a good human being -- the willingness to forgive, praise, be courteous? Or is he inclined to be a fibber, to fits of rage, to be a control freak, to be envious of you, to be secretive?"

What would be on your list of attributes for a prospective husband--or wife?  What would you say to a friend or child who asked, "What should I look for?"